We all have that voice in our head that tries to bring us down. It’s a real pain in the ass for one, but it can also stop you from reaching your full potential if you don’t learn how to control it.
If you’ve ever read a self-help book (or watched Dr. Phil!) then you’re probably familiar with the concept of “controlling your thoughts” and “thinking positive.” But when it actually comes down to putting these ideas into practice, it can be very difficult to remain consistent. Because that damn voice is unrelenting! And unless you spend every waking moment on guard against negative thoughts, that voice will keep managing to slip through.
Lucky for you, I have a much easier solution than a vague battle within your head. Not only is it effective, but it’s fun too!
First, though, I want you to consider this: even though it may seem like the voice is part of you… would you really be so mean to yourself willingly? It simply doesn’t make sense!
So instead, I want you to start thinking of that negative voice as an outsider who is giving you bad advice and pissing you off. The voice isn’t you; it’s the enemy.
So here’s the plan to conquer the enemy:
Step One: Give the voice a face and a name.
This is the fun part. I want to you think about your least favorite fictional character of all time. You can’t just dislike them; you have to hate them with a burning, bloody passion. For me, it’s Dolores Umbridge from Harry Potter, so I’ll use her as my example. I hate everything about her: her squishy face; her pointless cruelty; and her prejudice and discrimination. If she ever told me I couldn’t’ do something, I’d do it just to prove her wrong!
So now whenever I hear that negative voice trying to tell me I’m worthless, I see and hear that bitch Umbridge, and I mentally flip her the bird!
Step Two: Internally talk back to your “character.”
When you start to hear the negative dialogue in your head, see and hear is as your most-hated character. Would you let that asshat talk to you like that in real life? Hell no! You’d prove that mother effer wrong. Tell her to stick it where the sun don’t shine.
Step Three: Repeat.
Repeat this process as long and as often as that bitch keeps showing her face. You wouldn’t let someone talk to you like that in your own home, so you certainly can’t let her talk to you like that in your own head! The more she tries to insult you, the harder you need to push back.
The coolest part? Eventually she’ll stop trying to bother you, because she knows your too strong. As long as you stay consistent, that assbutt will eventually give up. That means no more negative voice, and that’s it! You win!
So, what character are you going to use to represent your greatest nemesis? Comment below!